“Ing Wipawee”, a terminal cancer patient, with a life plan on a deadline of 1 year before passing away
From the Death Fest 2025 event in March, one of the highlights of the event was the opening ceremony chaired by “Ing-Wipawee Phutim”, a terminal cancer patient who was preparing to say goodbye. Women had the opportunity to invite her to talk about preparing for death and living life that must count down according to the deadline of life, which is 1 year from now. What is Ing’s idea of death? How does she prepare? And what makes her happy every day?
Ing is a terminal cancer patient. She is only 28 years old and decided to choose palliative care. “Ing was diagnosed with terminal cancer and the chemotherapy given by the doctor could not cure Ing anymore. So I thought and weighed with myself whether if I chose treatment to buy time but my body could not handle it anymore, would it really be worth it?” But because she wanted to live her limited time as happily as possible before the end, she decided to stop chemotherapy and switch to palliative care instead, using the Thai Advance Planning Form to specify her needs.
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Now, Ing has stopped chemo, is not receiving treatment, and feels that her body has recovered after going through the painful period, her body deteriorated from the แทงบอล UFABET ราคาดีที่สุด ไม่มีขั้นต่ำ medication. As for her mental health, she is now “relieved” because before this, she was in a situation where she still had to make a decision about treatment. But when she chose her path, she knew which version she would go for, planned ahead, and did her best, she felt relieved to dare to decide to continue living her life without having to worry anymore.
Since the beginning of March, the doctor informed her that the previous chemo regimen had reached its limit and she could not continue with the chemo. The next step is to receive immunotherapy, which he told her the cost. Ing thought that it was unaffordable, and neither Ing nor her family could afford it. She also thought that if she died while she was still receiving medication or in the treatment program, it might cause trouble for her family later on. So Ing decided not to follow the program that the doctor suggested and ended the treatment.
What was the first thing that came to mind when she learned that she only had one year to live?
It should be family only. There are no other options. As I said, I have experience with my father having cancer and dying from it. So I think of family first. Now we only have my mother and older sister left with us. And we want to take care of our relationship as best we can before we leave. We don’t want him to suffer from thinking that he didn’t take good care of us or that he didn’t do his best. *We told him that it was our decision and we are happy that we chose this path. We want him to understand this more.
How do you plan your life this year?
Actually, after knowing that it is the last year, the things we love, we want to pass them on to people who know their value, our friends, or people who truly love us, so that they can use them or remember us. We will write and manage everything, specifying who to give them to. In addition to the various things we intend to do, there is one thing that we will definitely not do before we die, which is not honoring ourselves in making decisions. Because before, before I could make a decision, I often thought a lot about what other people would think.
Then I thought that it was none of their business. It was my business. I should choose for myself, so it would meet my needs. This is an important thing that I thought I would not do. Before that, I often cared about other people. In terms of treatment, there were many voices asking why not try this way? Why choose this way? Should I take herbal medicine? But I told them that I did not want that. Before I passed away, I would rather spend the most time with my family. This was my need. But before that, there were many thoughts. But when I thought about it, they did not have any part in me. I had to choose for myself.
Ing planned the last moments of her life in the way that Ing wanted in advance while Ing was still conscious, such as living happily every day, going to places she wanted to go, going to see concerts of Korean artists that Ing liked, maintaining relationships with people close to her, making her mother comfortable and not blaming herself by always telling her mother that death is something that happens to everyone, that her mother did her best and there was no need to blame herself, and she announced the news to her friends so that they understood.
Manage bank transactions and important codes by leaving them with your mother, the person you trust the most, and prepare to distribute your important belongings to those who will use them and see their value, such as comic books and collectibles that you love.
If after a year, Ing is still here, how will we feel about the decision we made today?
Ing probably won’t regret making this decision because we were firm in our attitude from the beginning and don’t feel sorry for what we did. Planning ahead is very useful for Ing because at least if we’re still alive, it’s considered luck, a bonus. But our real luck is that we planned before we died. We died well, we were happy, we didn’t have to let anyone suffer with us, and he really understood us that our departure was a good departure.
Does your perspective on death change once you know you’re going to die?
Ing became interested in death when she found out she had cancer. And we know how serious this disease is. That’s why Ing thought about it from the beginning when she had cancer. So Ing’s perspective on death has changed a lot. Because at first, we thought that we still had a lot of time. Everyone in this life, we often think that we have plenty of time.
But when we know that our time is limited, Ing’s perspective changed. From someone who never found happiness easily, it turned out that we valued it. For example, today Ing woke up and ate her favorite menu. Ing felt so lucky. She still got to listen to the songs she liked. She saw him release new songs. Just this made her happy. She also got to see her mother smile and be proud of raising her child. This was an important thing that changed Ing’s mindset.
I want to tell this to those who are still alive and those who are in a state like this.
I want you to live every second as happily as possible because we don’t know when death will come to us. But if we do everything we intend to and do it to the fullest, we will not regret the time we spent on it. And don’t forget to plan for the end of your life, which can be done today because we don’t know when death will come and death is no longer something scary if we have good planning.